Need advise. Please help.?

I am a volunteer in my neighbourhood youth centre. I am put in charge of a soccer team. Our approach here is 2 pronged, education and sports. We voulnteers giving extra lessons before we start the soccer training. The whole idea here is to get these boys off the streets and be more productive of their time. So far, after more than a year, we can see change in the boys discipline and attitude.


However, we have one problem with this boy. He is tempremental, self-centred and very destructive towards the team overall morale. Although his soccer skill level is a notch above the average, and, he is currently our team top scorer in our local league. He is lacking mental strength. Whenever, we found ourselves trailing, he will be in his destructive mode. Like balming everyone in the team, and will start to dish out all the dirty tricks in the book at the opponent. Unfortunately, more than once he bite more than he could chew.


Things got worse last weekend. During 5-a-side training session, his team was given a run around the opposite team. In anger, he stamped on the smallest guy in the opposite team. It was a clear, malicious, and blatant. He had the audacity to call it a fair tackle. Needless to say, the coaching staff had to restrain the rest of the boys.


The easy way is to sack this troublemaker on the spot, but the head councillor will not sack him but will continue to 'counsel' him. He is smart enough to know that the punishment for his action is only a slap on the wrist. Sacking him will be out of the question because of our policy "NO ONE SHALL BE LEFT BEHIND"


His team mates don't want him, I had tried to reason with him and the head councillor had even tried to compromise with him. But nothing is working. We reprimand him but he will do it again next week. We suspend him for a match, he will be all innocent and regretful of his action and the following week, he will be back to his old self again.


I am in need of advise or suggestion in order to safe this boy from himself. Furthermore, it is unfair to the rest of the boys. We are chanelling to much energy and time on him alone.


We have tried the following;


Suspension from competitive matches


One on one interview / talk with him


Counselling


Promote to team captain (it sounded good at that time)


Demote from team captain



I work at an Outdoor School program and when children start to get out of hand they are put on a contract for whatever behavior issue they have, if the break it they are sent home. I know that you said no one is left behind but these circumstances seem to be extreme and maybe if he realizes that one more problem will get him kicked off then he will change and if not then you had valid proof that you gave him every opportunity to keep himself in the program.


Best of luck, its definitely a difficult situation.




cosider this: within each of us dwells a higher spirit. however, the Lord


in His wisdom gave us free will. in this we choose to pursue our higher


spirit or our free will. it is the ying and yang of our existance.


we can choose to feed the me or pursue the higher plaine of we.


through loss of self esteem, questions of revalance, unjustifide pain


or loss, we have but 3 choices:


1. pity pot: poor me, why me, what about me


2. blame: it is not me but them. revenge. why me.


3. opportunity to grow- grow where? higher spirit- the person who you


dream of being.


simple is it not.


the solution: we are all children of the creator. His mesage is LOVE


start by accepting yourself. progress into loving yourself. manifest this into LOVE for the creation and acceptance, understanding and LOVE


for those around you. we all need it, we all feel it, we know we have


to give it.


any thing else is self serving and doomed to failure.


anger is nested in self will. leave that nest and fly home.